HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR
8 TIPS TO MASTER YOUR PSYCHOLOGY AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS

By: Team Tony

Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear that we’re just not enough – fear is a common current that runs through all of our lives. And if we let it, fear can keep us locked up in the prison of the comfortable and predictable, which prevents us from reaching our true potential. Living in fear causes a double conundrum where you’re unfulfilled with the status quo yet afraid to pursue anything better. 

But there is also a way that fear can serve a valuable purpose, helping us break through the frustration to achieve the life we truly desire. That’s right – if you allow it to, fear can become a tool for finding fulfillment. You must discover how to stop living in fear – or better yet, how to use fear as your ultimate motivator.

WHY AM I LIVING IN FEAR?

To stop living in fear, you must understand the underlying psychology so that you can actively work against it. To a point, fear and anxiety have a place in healthy human psychology. Fear is a normal emotion that signals a potential threat to your physical or emotional safety. It’s a natural response that helped our ancestors survive, but in the modern world, this response can become chronic or hyper-sensitive. According to the latest research from Harvard, just over 19% of the total population has experienced an anxiety disorder in the last 12 months. They’re some of the most common psychological issues in the U.S.

Everything from the media to caffeine has been blamed for our current state of anxiety. But living in a state of blame has never helped anyone solve their problems. It’s time to take ownership of your emotions and transform your life.

HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR

With chronic fear, you’re not experiencing anxiety – you’re living in it. The fear response becomes a maladaptive lifestyle, influencing everything you think, feel and do. Living in fear keeps you stuck in a self-perpetuating cycle of defeat and frustration. 

The upside to fear is that the emotions surrounding it are usually so unpleasant that they drive you to find another way. There are many strategies for how to stop living in fear, from mindfulness meditation to physical exercise or seeking professional help. When you commit to facing your fears, you’re able to discover strategies to overcome them and find peace.

1. DETERMINE THE SOURCE OF YOUR ANXIETY 

If you’re living in fear, your anxieties have escalated to the point that they’re running the show. You’re thinking about your worries constantly without much mindfulness as to what’s behind them. To stop living in fear, you must pinpoint what’s causing your distress.

Get out a piece of paper and brainstorm a list. When you’re finished, circle the items that are tangible concerns – fears that your house will burn down, your kids will go missing or you’ll lose your job tomorrow. Start giving yourself a sense of control by writing a few actions you can take to prevent these things from happening. Also recognize the intangible concerns – fears of the apocalypse, alien invasion from Mars or worldwide economic collapse. You’ll see that these have very little chance of happening – but you’ll also see that these fears often have deeper roots. If your fears fall into this category, you’ll need to do some self-reflection to discover how to stop living in fear.

2. RECOGNIZE THAT LIFE HAPPENS FOR YOU

“Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you,” as Tony Robbins says. Truly understanding and accepting this concept is the first step to fulfillment. When you put an end to the blame game and start becoming the master of your own destiny, endless possibilities open up to you.

The reason for determining the source of your anxiety isn’t to give you an excuse to keep living in fear. It’s to help you assert power over those fears so that they no longer control you. Once you identify the source, you can change your story – and change your mindset. The first step is recognizing that you have a choice. You can blame outside forces for your emotions and continue to feel out of control. Or you can take charge of your life and learn how to stop living in fear.

3. STOP THE EXCUSES

Like blame, excuses are a defense mechanism we use to avoid facing our problems. It’s easy to push our hopes, desires and dreams aside when we have excuses: There’s just not enough time, I don’t have the money or the resources, I have a family, I’m too busy. And we start to hide behind those excuses instead of taking action to move forward.

Excuses are comforting when we’re living in fear. They’re safe. But excuses will also bring you back to exactly where you started. Remember that the next time an excuse floats into your mind. Are you truly where you want to be in life? Or are you falling back on fear and choosing to be comfortable instead of facing a challenge? By becoming more cognizant of your brain’s proclivity for using excuses so you won’t be held accountable, the better you will become at dismissing them.

4. TURN YOUR “SHOULDS” INTO “MUSTS”

In your mind, if you have no choice but to succeed – if achieving your goal is an absolute must – then nothing else matters. Sacrifices won’t even be a question. Excuses go out the window. You’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. Period.

Even the most successful people feel like they’re living in fear sometimes. The difference is that rather than allowing fear to creep in and suck the life right out of their dreams, they know that the price they will pay if they don’t give their goals and visions every ounce of energy and focus they have is far scarier. They know the real fear is living a life where they have settled or compromised what they really wanted. How do you adopt that mindset and perspective?

Try imagining yourself when you are 80 years old, nearing the end of your life. You are sitting in your rocking chair, reflecting on how you lived your life. Now, look back on your life as if you had not achieved the goal you are after at this moment in your life. How has this affected the course of your life? What are your regrets? What do you wish you had made more time for? What do you wish you had tried? Is there sadness and regret? Are you wondering, “What if…?” In this way, you can use fear to propel you toward your ultimate goal.

5. ADOPT A GROWTH MINDSET

People often give up on what they want because they believe that reaching their goal is beyond their abilities. They continue living in fear and settle into their lives, thinking that their goal is unattainable so they shouldn’t try at all. But the most successful people foster a growth mindset. They don’t think of their abilities as fixed, but rather as flexible. And when faced with a setback, they try harder. They adopt a new strategy. They keep seeking a solution. They don’t give up when things become challenging. Instead, they find new ways to adapt and work harder to achieve their goals.

6. LEARN THAT PAIN BRINGS VALUABLE INSIGHT

There isn’t one successful person in the world who hasn’t had to overcome major obstacles. The most painful experiences can help refine what you want and what you don’t want in life. Failure, disappointment, dead-ends – these can all be used as a means of reflecting and saying, “This didn’t work. It wasn’t the right fit. So what do I really want?” Remember, we are built to adapt. So embrace this strength and use each experience as a tool to help you learn more about yourself and what you really must have in life. When you’re facing a painful experience or feel ready to give into fear, picture someone you admire who faced adversity – they wouldn’t have achieved the success they now have without learning how to stop living in fear.

7. PRACTICE SELF-CARE

Mastering your emotions and changing your mindset is psychological – but would you be surprised to learn that the psychological is also physical? Next time you feel like you’re living in fear, try changing your posture and adopting a “power pose.” It can make you feel more confident and less fearful.

Other self-care habits have an effect on your state as well. Physical activity is proven to reduce depression and anxiety, so next time you feel fear coming on, get out and go for a walk, practice yoga or take a bike ride. Mindfulness meditation, including priming and other morning rituals, is also proven to combat anxiety and depression and even lower blood pressure. Eliminating caffeine and alcohol from your diet is another self-care tip that’s essential to lowering anxious feelings. When you combine physical and psychological self-care, you have the recipe for how to stop living in fear.

8. KNOW THAT FAILURE IS INEVITABLE

After all this work, you still need to accept one truth: You will fail. It’s just part of the process. Any successful person will tell you that. But failure provides insights and inherently corrects the faulty ways of approaching a problem. There is no teacher as impactful as the sting of failure. And no lesson in resilience better than the burn of rejection. But if you use these experiences as unique information, and adjust your strategy and approach the next time around, you will have an advantage that no one else does. With the right mindset, you can change your story and say goodbye to living in fear. 

If you’re ready to learn how to stop living in fear, you have to decide that your dreams are more important than your fear of failure. Make the decision today to master your fears and start existing as the most joyful, successful version of yourself possible. Get the support you need with Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Edge, your resource for overcoming obstacles and discovering your true desires.

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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF A WINNER
CHANGE YOUR PSYCHOLOGY. ACHIEVE UNSTOPPABLE SUCCESS.

By Team Tony Robbins

For everything we want to accomplish, we can easily come up with a handful of reasons why we can’t do it.

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I don’t have enough money.”

“It’s not going to work so what’s the point?”

Think of a few influential people. Do you think Ariana Huffington, Bill Gates or Serena Williams have had moments where they wished they had more time, energy or resources? Of course. It’s part of human nature to question whether or not we have what it takes to succeed at something. It’s easy to cite external factors as the reasons why we don’t fulfill our true potential.

The reality is, it all comes down to mindset. Leaders like Ariana Huffington, Bill Gates and Serena Williams have been able to find unparalleled success because they took control of their mindset and focused on the psychology of winning instead of concentrating on potential failures.

Success in life is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics — what you do doesn’t matter if you aren’t in the right mindset. Understanding the ways psychology can work for or against you will help you establish a healthier outlook and put you in the right mindset to execute your strategy.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR ULTIMATE GOAL

There are many factors that affect the psychology of a winner, but in order to start truly changing your mindset, you need to hone in on your ultimate goal. Your Results Coach can work together with you to fine-tune this vision. Are you looking to take your career to the next level? Deepen your ties to your family? Grow your wealth? Once you have your goal in mind, your Results Coach will challenge you to understand your motivation behind it. Do you want to further your career so you can create a better life for yourself? Do you want to work on your personal relationships so your life becomes more joyful and full of love? Why is making more money important to you – is it because you want to give back to your community? Gaining clarity of purpose and identifying your “why” behind the goal is the first step on your journey to success.

BREAKING DOWN BARRIERS

You’ve identified what it is you want; now it’s time to think about what’s holding you back. It’s not a lack of resources – it’s a lack of resourcefulness. Not only is being resourceful one of the qualities of a great leader, but it’s necessary if you’re looking to advance your life. Once you’ve accepted that you have everything you need to succeed, it’s time to turn inward. Your coach will help you look at the limiting beliefs that have impacted your success. Do you believe you’re not brave, smart or tenacious enough to reach the next level of achievement? You’ll work alongside your coach to break down these unnecessary mental barriers, ultimately bolstering your confidence and creating a new and improved story for yourself.

REACHING A HIGHER LEVEL OF SUCCESS

Now that you know what you want and have broken down your limiting beliefs, it’s time to start working toward the next level of accomplishment. Your mindset is everything when it comes to achieving your goals. When you view life as happening for you instead of to you and are able to believe that you have the potential and drive to succeed, you can truly accomplish anything. You’ll create a plan with your coach as to how you can achieve your goal, and then it’s up to you to keep your mindset in check. Of course, your coach will touch base with you along the way to not only hold you accountable but to discuss where your mind’s at. Stay motivated to think positively. If you start believing that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’ll prove yourself right. As Tony Robbins says, “Where focus goes, energy flows.”

It’s time to stop making excuses and start working toward your goals. By understanding the psychology of winning with the aid of your Results Coach, you can make massive strides toward your objectives. Ready to transform your life? Give us a call or email today!

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October Events Calendar
October 9, 10 & 12 – Stripe Testing (NO Regular Classes on the “A” Days)
 
Testing is done at the regular class times. Students MUST be in *FULL Uniform to test. Students must also have their Scholar Folder with them as well
*Full Uniform includes Uniform Top, Pants and Belt
October 14, 2019 – Closed for Columbus Day

There is no need to make up this classes as it is a scheduled closing. We recommend coming to an alternate “A” Day to receive the material being shown on that week. 

All Monday students will receive a class credit. 

 

Food Drive on October 21, 2019

 

Buddy Week – October 21, 22 & 25

Students can bring up to 2 non-karate buddies with them to their “A” Day classes this week.  ALL buddies MUST have a completed permission slip signed by their parent or guardian in order to participate. 

 

October 26, 2019 – Parent Night Out (Zombie Hunter Edition) 6:30pm-8:30pm

Moms & Dads, looking to get out and enjoy an evening? Take a night off and let us watch the kids. At our Parent’s Night Out/Movie Night your child will have a blast with their friends while you relax for a few hours. Kids play games, watch a movie and have a great time! Pizza and juice will be served.

BBT Students $18; Non-BBC $20 ; 2nd Child is 1/2 Price. ($9 or $10); All other guests are FREE. All Participants MUST be pre-registered. The movie for this event will be “Monster vs. Aliens” (PG).

SPACE IS LIMITED, Register early to secure your child’s spot!

 

October 31, 2019 – Closed for Halloween

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Early Bird Discount- Summer Karate Camp

We’ve extended our “Early Bird” discount for our Summer Camp a little longer and will be offering a “Late Early Bird” discount of $25 to those who register by May 31st.  See flyer below for more details.

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