Many people have seen the acronym F.E.A.R. It stands for, False Evidence Appearing Real. FEAR is an illusion. It is something we fabricate in our own minds and pretend is real. It is a fairy tale we tell ourselves that keeps us from doing what we really want.
A common label for FEAR is anxiety. The author Seth Godin once remarked, “Anxiety is nothing but repeatedly re-experiencing failure in advance. What a waste.” Do past failures indicate that your future plans will not work? Absolutely not! To the contrary, it’s likely you learned things from your past failures that instead provide evidence that your odds are now better than ever.
I recently began reading the book 10X, by Grant Cardone. In one of the chapters he discusses FEAR. His antidote to smash fear and achieve success is to take MASSIVE ACTION.
Here is a suggestion to help you get over FEAR.
Many times adults are afraid of starting martial arts training because of the fear of looking foolish, feeling uncoordinated or for those that have children, feeling selfish for taking time to develop yourself. Are you willing to push yourself out side your comfort zone?
Rubberbands are useful only when they are stretched!
What separates a great martial artist from a mediocre one? Is it talent? Is it athleticism? Sure all of those things play a part but the real difference between someone who is good and someone who is outstanding is discipline, determination, and drive!
They are willing to stretch themselves and push beyond their comfort zone. Great black belts show up on a consistent basis ready to give his or her very best each and every time.
When is a rubber band useful? Only when it is stretched. In many ways, people are the same way. For each of us to reach our true potential we need to consistently stretch ourselves.
Alan Cohen, author and contributor to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series ,says “To grow, you must be willing to let your present and future be totally unlike your past. Your history is not your destiny.”
In the dojo that could mean working on some advanced techniques that have proven difficult in the past or it could mean training with someone in class that really challenges you. Successful people get comfortable at being uncomfortable!
Your attitude plays a big part in this. You have to have the drive and desire to stretch yourself to become more. It all starts with knowing what you want and why you want it.
“If you won’t be better tomorrow than you were today, then what do you need tomorrow for?”
What can you do to grow to the next level? What can you learn? Who might motivate or push you to grow?
I hope you enjoyed this week’s message on the Law of the Rubberband. Please share it so we all continue to stretch ourselves to become better human beings.
Mr. Soares began training in the martial arts at the age of 13 and shortly after graduating High School he earned his Black Belt. Mr. Soares opened a small karate club in 1992. In 1999 he went to serve in the Massachusetts Army National Guard for ten years. During that time Mr. Soares was deployed to Bosnia-Herzegovina as a Flight Medic. While there, in addition to his duties, he also taught self-defense to soldiers in his unit as well as soldiers from other countries. In 2011 he opened Lance Soares’ Family Martial Arts Center in New Bedford and has since served as its director and chief instructor. Mr. Soares is currently an 5th Degree Black Belt in the Parker system of Kenpo Karate.