Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude
Have you ever been around a group of truly successful people? Have you ever spent time with people that are at the peak of their game? What were they like? How did you feel when you were around them? What type of “vibes” did they exude?
The late great Zig Ziglar said "It's your attitude, not your aptitude that will determine your altitude."
One of the things our students love most about their martial arts training with us is the positive atmosphere that we provide. If you’ve never considered martial arts as a way to get fit and learn a valuable skill you really should. It’s a blast! When it comes to kids, there isn’t anything else like it.
As Zig Ziglar points out in the quote above, your attitude determines your altitude…..meaning, the key to success really is put simply, have a positive attitude. That is pretty obvious I know, but when you dig deeper, there is quite a bit entailed in that process.
People: How positive are the circles you travel in? Are you the highest achiever? Do they build you up as a person, or do they bring you down like crabs in a bucket? Do they challenge you? Sometimes to be a peak performer, you need to change the people you surround yourself with. Am I saying to disown your family? Of course not, but if they hinder your positive attitude on a regular basis…..I would think carefully about limiting how much time you spend with them. That goes for friends as well.
Personality+: Another point to consider is that you are responsible for checking your own positivity “barometer.” People often mirror how you act towards them. If you speak negatively, look negative, etc….that is what you will attract back! Some people have natural charisma and a positive attitude. Others have to work for it. If you need to work on it, DO IT! And don’t get upset about it! smile.
Barriers: How well do you deal with obstacles? Do they stop your progress completely? Do they ruin your mood and your positive attitude? Peak performers see them as inevitable challenges to be conquered. They either plug along like nothing happened or they get more excited to overcome them.
Brain: Let’s face it, life is short and you DESERVE to be happy. Your mind is a very unique organ, but it does need to be trained just like a muscle. We do push-ups, sit-ups, run miles at a time, but how much time does the average adult spend training their mind? Not enough! Your mind can either be your greatest asset or your biggest liability. Take the time to train it and you will find that you will be less influenced by negative people and external challenges.
Your mind truly is like a parachute; it works best when open. Work daily on shifting your mindset to a, “Yes I Can Attitude” and you will find a greater level of success in life!
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By Warren Hayes, MD
1. Listen to your child
Turn off the TV, put down the mail. Stop looking at your phone. Make it clear you are interested in what your child is saying to you.
2. Praise and encourage communication
Thank your child for sharing thoughts and experiences with you. Be sure to praise your child for coming to you with questions, concerns or just letting you know what they are thinking about.
3. Teach self-respect
This is best taught by showing respect. Speak to your child with respect – even if upset or angry. Never give in the temptation to shout or demean your child.
4. Focus on the positive
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has successes as well. Praise the positive behavior and accomplishments. Don’t exaggerate, but let them know you notice positive behavior.
5. Instill confidence
Particularly for adolescents, express confidence in their ability. Skills are not usually mastered overnight. Notice and praise progress. Teens are practicing how to make decisions. Help them.
6. Enjoy your child's company
Tap into his or her humor, energy and creativity. You may rekindle your own youthful side. Your child will sense your approval and see the positive qualities you admire.
Self-esteem builds as your child grows. Beginning in infancy, a child's self-worth grows through childhood, preadolescence and the teen years by interacting with you and your spouse and their environment. Successful experiences build along the way.
GARBAGE DUMP THINKING
In a large Southern city there is a magnificent shopping center which stands on the former city garbage dump. For over a century no one saw this location as anything but the “garbage dump”.
Many years ago, however, some progressive minded citizens started “seeing” that location as the location for a beautiful new shopping center. Immediately, they stopped dumping garbage and started hauling good, clean fill dirt and dumping it over the century old garbage. They did this until a solid foundation was prepared. On this foundation, a magnificent new shopping center was built.
There are two points to this story:
Point 1: Notice, you can’t build on garbage. You can’t build a shopping mall on garbage, and you can’t build a happy, successful life on garbage. What do I mean when I say garbage? I’m talking about the garbage of negative thinking. There is no way you will be a happy, positive, productive person if you try to build your life upon a foundation of negative thinking. You won’t be happy and successful, and you won’t become a Black Belt either. There is no way you can achieve a Black Belt by thinking negatively or by criticizing or doubting yourself. To become a Black Belt Champion you have to build your life on the foundation of a positive mental attitude!
Point 2: We live in a negative world. Maybe someone has been dumping garbage on you and into your mind. Garbage can get dumped into your mind by other people (by what they say) and garbage can filter into your mind by things that you hear and read (i.e. media). Either way, like building the mall, you’re going to have to cover up that garbage with the good, the clean, the pure and the positive! That’s why it’s so important to read positive material and be involved with positive things like your martial arts training. To be positive, you have to surround yourself with positive things!
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When someone falls victim to negative thinking, they develop what Zig Ziglar referred to as the “Loser’s Limp.”
You know what the loser’s limp is if you’ve ever seen someone in competition that creates an excuse as to why her or she didn’t win. One of my favorite examples is where an athlete or the team blames the referee for making a bad call that lost them them the game; or worse yet, goes on and one about how bad the referees were. In fact they were so bad that they shouldn’t even be allowed to referee in that league ever again! An athlete that develops the Loser’s Limp will mentally injure himself or herself more so than any physical injury every could.
Living the Black Belt Lifestyle is NOT easy. It’s EASY to give up and make excuses. It’s EASY to develop “THE LIMP!” Don’t let that be you. Acting like a Black Belt takes work – especially when everyone around you seems to enjoying limping around.
Black Belt champions are disciplined and stay focused at the task at hand. Black belts understand that just because you’re a black belt doesn’t mean that you will never fail but it does mean that you will always put forth your best effort regardless of the outcome.
Are there any areas of your life where you may have developed “a limp?” If so, write down all of the reasons why you feel you can’t overcome the obstacle. Don’t miss anything. Then, once you have completed the list crumple up that piece of paper and throw it away!
Now take out a fresh sheet of paper and write down as many solutions as possible. If you run out of ideas ask someone else that you respect and admire that has a positive attitude to help you think up a few more. Once you have your list, TAKE MASSIVE ACTION; nothing will change unless you decide to “Lose the Limp!”
The Japanese raise a tree called the Bonsai tree. It’s beautiful and perfectly formed, although it’s height is measured in inches.
In California, we find a forest of giant green trees called Sequoias. One of these giants has been named the General Sherman. It extends into the sky 272 feet and measures 79 feet in circumference. This tree is so large, that if we cut it down, it would produce enough lumber to build 35 – five room houses!
The amazing thing is that at one time, the Bonsai and the General Sherman were the same size. The both began as tiny little seeds. However, when the Bonsai tree started to grow, the Japanese pulled it from the ground and tied off its tap-root. This stunted its growth.
Unlike the Bonsai, the seed of the General Sherman was planted in the rich, fertile soil of California. If grew in environment that got plenty of water, nutrients and sunlight.
Neither of these trees have any choice in what they become, BUT YOU DO! Being a Black Belt is a choice. You can choose to GET a Black Belt, or you can choose to BE a Black Belt. What’s the difference = being a Black Belt is a lifestyle. It’s taking the lesson we learn in class, and living them outside the Dojo.
It’s being respectful outside the Dojo (not just here), it’s being Discipline outside the Dojo (not just here). It’s acting like a Black Belt all the time – not just here.
And it starts with a decision! Before you can BE a Black Belt, you have to make the decision; do you want to BE a Black Belt, or do you just want to get one? A real Black Belt lives it – not wears it.
Mr. Soares began training in the martial arts at the age of 13 and shortly after graduating High School he earned his Black Belt. Mr. Soares opened a small karate club in 1992. In 1999 he went to serve in the Massachusetts Army National Guard for ten years. During that time Mr. Soares was deployed to Bosnia-Herzegovina as a Flight Medic. While there, in addition to his duties, he also taught self-defense to soldiers in his unit as well as soldiers from other countries. In 2011 he opened Lance Soares’ Family Martial Arts Center in New Bedford and has since served as its director and chief instructor. Mr. Soares is currently an 5th Degree Black Belt in the Parker system of Kenpo Karate.